Of the many women I've loved, there hasn't been one who had a really good relationship with their mother (although most would disagree with my assertion.) That includes my sister, who did a pretty good job of concealing the problems, nor my mother, who often had a quite contentious relationship with her mother, and my nieces, all of whom had various levels of difficulty with their mothers.
I never knew Blondie's mother, but I don't care much for her. Blondie says I'm being unfair, that her mother would have loved me, and I'd have loved her, but I have heard too many stories of Blondie's growing up. When she was a teenager, she smarted off to her mother, and her mother slapped her. Blondie slapped her back, and from then on, instead of slapping Blondie, her mother would call on Blondie's father to discipline her. "Ben!" she would cry, and my father in law would come in and plead, in exasperation, for Blondie to behave.
Exasperation
I can understand that exasperation. And I don't disapprove of physical punishment. It's far better than emotionally battering a kid. Spanking is deliberate, and kids understand why they are being spanked. While being spanked is painful for the kid, the parent's hand has more nerve endings than the kid's butt, so there's not going to be any real damage. And unlike cruel words, once a spanking is over, it's over. But slapping someone in the face is done in anger, not in calm deliberation.
As Craig Ferguson would say, "We welcome your letters. CBS cares." I'd actually kinda like someone to argue the other side, because I know I can't present it properly, for I ain't buying it.
Like one in six men, one if four girls, I experienced traumatic abuse before the age of twelve. Peer counseling helped me work out my problems a couple of decades ago, and then I engaged in peer counseling to pay it forward. I heard lots of stories, and undoubtedly not all were truthful, but sometimes, it seemed like more survivers were minimizing their issues rather than exaggerating them.